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"LIFE OF COMMON INDIAN FEMALE
PART - 2"
HOMO SAPIENS, this is what we call ourselves. What makes us so different in all animal kingdom. We are smart, we have brains more developed and intelligent. There is one more thing which makes different, We are the only creature in animals world: to show our supremacy to we use means like domestic violence to female. How shameful it is! Even though the non-intelligent male animal love respect and care to the female animals more than we do. The male animal never is hateful and hurtful to the female animal.
Globally, one in three women has experienced physical and/or sexual violence in their lifetime.
Why are we so damn bad?
India is currently one of the largest populations countries. With increasing the rate of population, the rate of crime is also increasing rapidly. Between 2011 and 2015, India recorded over 40,000 dowry-related deaths.
let me move from part -1 now takes forward the same place we stopped.
If the girl gets young their education & marriage is the most concerned thing in our society. The most dramatic and narrow-minded population of Indian society is on this topic. Both of the topics is the key to change the life of females in our society. But both are the reason why the so problematic lives of women are in our society.
EDUCATION:
Education can solve any problem in any human life. It provides a blueprint to tackle problems, It shows all the ways and probability of the problems, solution.
All thank full to modernization happening in our society; slightly changing the environment of the female education system in India, but it is only for a very low scale. The people are growing quite a broad-minded in education for the girl child, but only for primary and secondary education not for higher education. Guardian of most of the girl child yet refuses to provide higher education to girls.
The reason is yet the old norms and ideologies. After all, thinking about it, talking and understanding people thoughts. I have come to this conclusion of problems related to female education. - Our society thinks female to inferior then male, So as the parents of girls child. For our society, the girl child is merely problematic liabilities, Which are to be solved by marrying them. Such a mentality are widely spread throughout the nation. Every social community and family irrespective of their cast, religion and social status; have the same perspective of on female education. So parents and guardians who are authorized for this girl child education; Thinks, this girl is born for going another family after marriage, why should I even waste money on her education. Same money, I will invest then she will be married to good groom. [ wow, seriously! how could they think like this? They think their child as liabilities. The same child they have given birth. This things really drives me crazy.]
Even when we debate their parents, that you can't have thoughts of girls to be a problem, this is wrong! You ought to provide them a good education. The response of their parents is even more devastating than their thoughts. They reply: After marriage what she has to do with the education. She has to give birth to children, cook food for the family, wash clothes, and live beneath their husband. So what is necessary for her education? [holy christ! this is really minded disturbing. If parents think their girl child future like this, so what will be their future of the child.]
- Other the most hazardous ideology behind less education of girls are: If the girl gets higher education she would need a groom at least as much as her education level. And one of the bad practice of Indian society is, dowry practice: Higher qualified the groom is & high prosperous family of the groom is higher the demand of dowry are! If the girl parents or guardian are not good by economic condition, then neither will they able to teach them nor will be capable of high dowry.
Anyway, the mentality of people is changing toward education and necessary. Every day I hear girls whom the parents are providing opportunity are giving their best and scoring high. This is very happiest moment since the thousands of year female fight for authority and gaining their rights in society, this high scoring best giving girl is the representation of victory of their struggle.
☑️ If after marriage the Husband or in-law family torcher her. An idle girl is expected to close her eye and tolerate every torcher like this is her destiny for this is only she is born.
☑️ If the girl irritated of all those in-law torchers and step forward to divorce the husband. Initially, she is seen as characterless and then her inner strength is broken down by words like ladies are meant to tolerate suffer, your husband is your everything. You have no future after your husband. You will be destroyed if try to divorce him. so better to be like a slave of man, No need to get out the trap and fly like a free bird. [this is ridiculous! I wish, I might throw the people in the dustbin, who demoralizes a girl with such words. I mean really how could anyone say like this. Disgusting!]
Anyway, There are many problems with no ultimate solution. If I keep typing it will keep going. But I know I will try to make my society get rid of these things as much as I could. It is a slow process. It will take time.
For female those who are reading my blog, I will only say you." Don't be afraid to be a free bird, You don't have a boundary, You don't have a limit. Get out of the trap by educating yourself as much as you could it is the only way for your freedom. You are not worthless. Instead, you are everything. You are the main pillar around which everything rotates. Don't be afraid to breakout from this trap and adventure the endless possibilities of your happiness and power. You are strong you are brave."
MARRIAGE:
One of the complicated topic and also the main life-changing situation to create or destroy the life of any girl.
Well talking about to Indian society, Main priority is a marriage of livelihood! what I really meant say that; here, marriage is whole life; whereas in the European and American society is marriage is just a part of life, not the life; whereas success is the main life.
Well talking about to Indian society, Main priority is a marriage of livelihood! what I really meant say that; here, marriage is whole life; whereas in the European and American society is marriage is just a part of life, not the life; whereas success is the main life.
MARRIAGE in Indian society is very complicated.
CRITERIA FOR MARRIAGES:-
☑️Arrange marriage is the ideal way to be married.
☑️ Love marriage is strictly prohibited and taken as dishonoring practice for parents respect.
☑️ Only the same cast and same religion marriage are taken to be the ideal way for marriage.If girl shows intrest in boy with other caste, she is seen as characterless and then her inner strength is broken down by using abusive words for her character.
☑️Intercast or Inter-religion marriage are strictly prohibited. It is out of dignity.
☑️The girl who shows their interest and tries to show their choice towards groom selection is taken to be characterless.[amazing!]
☑️ The girl is supposed to get married by anyone their parents choose. Without any questioning or without any expectation for her future.
☑️ If after marriage the Husband or in-law family torcher her. An idle girl is expected to close her eye and tolerate every torcher like this is her destiny for this is only she is born.
☑️ If the girl irritated of all those in-law torchers and step forward to divorce the husband. Initially, she is seen as characterless and then her inner strength is broken down by words like ladies are meant to tolerate suffer, your husband is your everything. You have no future after your husband. You will be destroyed if try to divorce him. so better to be like a slave of man, No need to get out the trap and fly like a free bird. [this is ridiculous! I wish, I might throw the people in the dustbin, who demoralizes a girl with such words. I mean really how could anyone say like this. Disgusting!]
Even speaking about it is really awful. These norms are daily practiced even from thousands of years. Heartbreaking, how could any society be so orthodox about such things.
We are living in society, Where yet the people have such shameful thoughts about the female.
Ok! If men behave to suppress the female; for a second, we can say it is due to different gender these things are there. But it becomes painful when some female also has the mentality to show the male is supreme than a female. These are those females who once suffered from various kind of gender discrimination and inequality, but after the passage of time, same kind discrimination and inequality they are putting on her daughter and granddaughter which they suffered. The only reason behind this behavior: They have suffered. They were trapped now this means this is a destiny of living and so as they followed it now there next generation have to follow it and they will force them to be in this trap.
Ok! If men behave to suppress the female; for a second, we can say it is due to different gender these things are there. But it becomes painful when some female also has the mentality to show the male is supreme than a female. These are those females who once suffered from various kind of gender discrimination and inequality, but after the passage of time, same kind discrimination and inequality they are putting on her daughter and granddaughter which they suffered. The only reason behind this behavior: They have suffered. They were trapped now this means this is a destiny of living and so as they followed it now there next generation have to follow it and they will force them to be in this trap.
In in-law house, the life of female are more complicated and mentally harassing. Female is treated as a servant came on free to serve them. They merely care about there health about there feeling, [ oh! feelings the female have feelings! no-no are you kidding me! she is just a humanoid robot came to in-law house to serve them for there commands like to make tea for them, food for them, wash their clothes and to give the birth to the child. That is her life. The feeling doesn't exist in females.] I am sorry to say such a word but this is not my thoughts this is thought of every father-in-law & mother-in-law for there daughters-in-law. Life of any servant working on wages is better than Female, In in-law house.
Anyway, There are many problems with no ultimate solution. If I keep typing it will keep going. But I know I will try to make my society get rid of these things as much as I could. It is a slow process. It will take time.
For female those who are reading my blog, I will only say you." Don't be afraid to be a free bird, You don't have a boundary, You don't have a limit. Get out of the trap by educating yourself as much as you could it is the only way for your freedom. You are not worthless. Instead, you are everything. You are the main pillar around which everything rotates. Don't be afraid to breakout from this trap and adventure the endless possibilities of your happiness and power. You are strong you are brave."
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